Why CEO took train from Bishan to CCK when his office is near City Hall..

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

Denmeister wrote:

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

i think for others but do others think for me?

I remember a SG mandarin drama series where an Auntie was volunteering in a church . A pastor noticed that she seemed unhappy and asked her about it. She said she felt unappreciated for her efforts that she put in to her marriage and her husband is still the same. Coming home, lazing around, never once complimenting her on what she has done for the family and taking care of the household chores.

The pastor then asked her if she loved her volunteer work at the church, which she said yes to. He asked, if she were to spend hours baking cookies for the church folks and one grumpy old man came up to complain about the taste of her cookies, how would she react? Would she feel unappreciated for her time and efforts in doing volunteer work?

She said yes.

The pastor then said, in life, we tend to do things with expectations that others will appreciate our efforts. When the compliments do not come as expected, we tend to get upset. When we do it out of love, we must also enjoy the process and feel gratified and happy just because we are doing what we love. By expecting others to see our efforts in order to feel happy is just not practical as this act will diminish our happiness.

instead of feeling unappreciated because of what the grumpy old man said, why not just smile at him and ask if it was too salty for his liking? The next time she bakes, just add less salt. The end result, she takes it in her stride, the grumpy old man is less grumpy.

This is only in TV. Its different in real life.

I agree that if you want to do something, you got to do it out of your own accord and expect nothing in return. Any returns will be a bonus. I learnt this the hard way.

To put it in perspective, I did two orders of shirts before 'voluntarily', underwrite the whole thing on my own. Response was good but money collection was bad. So who can I smile at and ask when am I going to be paid for personalized shirts that are not meant for me?

This is not the only case, another more fed up story is with regards to a 'princess' and a hybrid club. K N N.

Moral of the story? Do not volunteer anything again for people I hardly know.



I will do favours, shirt orders and game organization only for people I know personally.

MC,
I totally understand what u went through as I have the same experience. The positive aspect of this is, we learned to be smarter after losing out the first time. Like what you said, you will only do it now for people that you know whom you trust.

I organized games, helped friends to source for equipment only to get reprimanded when people don't show up on the day, or not honor the price agreed upon. It can be a thankless task. The one episode that bitten me hard was last year's sg vs johor Ryder cup game rematch that was supposed to happen in sg. I tried to get a team but the Jb kakis were all adopting the "the date is too far away, let's talk about it as it gets closer" attitude. At the end, I was not able to respond to the sg folks with a confirmation.

That made me look bad in front of my friendly opponents and on Jb side, I was deemed too pushy. Again, I inadvertently got myself to step on dog Pooh.

Like you, I still volunteer my time to arranging games and other stuff. I do weigh the consequences and am selective on who I help. It will be for people who will not jeopardize my credibility.

If we look at the outcome from a different view and focus on the positive, it is through our acts that we can find new like minded people that we can become good friends with. Other people's actions speaks volumes of their own character and we can decide for ourselves whether we want to engage with them in the future.

BTW, your comment about such things only happening in tv series is one that I disagree with. I found the message meaningful and it gave me a new perspective. I have learned to enjoy my efforts and not get bogged down by unkind words.

It made a lot of sense to me.

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

This is not the only case, another more fed up story is with regards to a 'princess' and a hybrid club. K N N.

Can we have more of the story above? Any tabloid with real life princess in it should be very interesting, combined that with a hybrid club... damn... it's almost mouth watering...

guy013 wrote:

TheFocalPoint wrote:

like this one?

Actually I'm quite curious. Does the situation in the bottom pic really happen on a daily basis in SG?

I guess no one here really know the answer Cos no one here takes MRT. that's how far from reality we really are.

But we still complain that MRT pack hhaa

watermyforrest wrote:

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

This is not the only case, another more fed up story is with regards to a 'princess' and a hybrid club. K N N.

Can we have more of the story above? Any tabloid with real life princess in it should be very interesting, combined that with a hybrid club... damn... it's almost mouth watering...

Im curious too.. Hmmmmm

Denmeister wrote:

BTW, your comment about such things only happening in tv series is one that I disagree with. I found the message meaningful and it gave me a new perspective. I have learned to enjoy my efforts and not get bogged down by unkind words.

It made a lot of sense to me.

Good for you.

@WMF/Begbie, in our next golf game.

We must make time for makan and drinks then all the stories will be shared...

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

@WMF/Begbie, in our next golf game.

We must make time for makan and drinks then all the stories will be shared...

When when???

guy013 wrote:

guy013 wrote:

TheFocalPoint wrote:

like this one?

Actually I'm quite curious. Does the situation in the bottom pic really happen on a daily basis in SG?

I guess no one here really know the answer Cos no one here takes MRT. that's how far from reality we really are.

But we still complain that MRT pack hhaa

unfortunately it does, both during morning and evening peak hours

guy013 wrote:

guy013 wrote:

Actually I'm quite curious. Does the situation in the bottom pic really happen on a daily basis in SG?

I guess no one here really know the answer Cos no one here takes MRT. that's how far from reality we really are.

But we still complain that MRT pack hhaa

I do take MRT at times when going to dinner at night, especially when I expect to drink tonight.

enwee wrote:

guy013 wrote:

guy013 wrote:

Actually I'm quite curious. Does the situation in the bottom pic really happen on a daily basis in SG?

I guess no one here really know the answer Cos no one here takes MRT. that's how far from reality we really are.

But we still complain that MRT pack hhaa

I do take MRT at times when going to dinner at night, especially when I expect to drink tonight.

If u take the train at night Its no different from the CEO.. Try taking it during peak hour and revert again..

enwee wrote:

guy013 wrote:

guy013 wrote:

Actually I'm quite curious. Does the situation in the bottom pic really happen on a daily basis in SG?

I guess no one here really know the answer Cos no one here takes MRT. that's how far from reality we really are.

But we still complain that MRT pack hhaa

I do take MRT at times when going to dinner at night, especially when I expect to drink tonight.

Enjoy your drinks tonight at night

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

@WMF/Begbie, in our next golf game.

We must make time for makan and drinks then all the stories will be shared...

I'm still waiting bro.....

Leo wrote:

guy013 wrote:

guy013 wrote:

TheFocalPoint wrote:

like this one?

Actually I'm quite curious. Does the situation in the bottom pic really happen on a daily basis in SG?

I guess no one here really know the answer Cos no one here takes MRT. that's how far from reality we really are.

But we still complain that MRT pack hhaa

unfortunately it does, both during morning and evening peak hours

Yup, again I have not seen it myself, but my former colleagues told me it's super packed, sometimes they have to let 3 trains go first before able to board...

So I can imagine how bad it is lor...