Progression in my golf game and element of course mgmt

So what breaks and what makes your golf?

If I go back to when I started , just like many beginners, it's all hole....

But as I move along, par 3 and par 5 were the main culprits. Looking back, I overestimate myself as my irons weren't solid enough for pr3. Par 5 were nitemares.....I tried to squeeze every ounce of strength on driver and most times, I messed up...be it ob, bunker or down rite don now where it went.

After a long while, common sense were knocked into me. I started to build a confident distance to attack par 3... 150m max. For par 5, I realized due to my swing deficiency , whether I hit solid or max out, the diff is only 20-30m. Reality sets in....Just hit the fairway!!!!

So nowadays...par 4 hits me bad!! Looking at my past games, my ave shots per hole is at par4 is the highest.....sigh

I am not sure if its due to bad course mgmt or what......but am worried it's due to LOFT