New type of relationship? FWB

i think i am too out-dated liao... din know these type of relationship exists......

from asiaone.com

http://www.asiaone.com/Health/News/Story/A1Story20091025-175768.html

The bottomline to having 'friends with benefits' (FWB) is that people are fulfilling the normal physiological process of having sex.

That's the opinion of Dr Ilias Yee, Family Health Development Association of Penang vice chairman.
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He says says in modern society, women are no longer treated as commodities and they are more empowered in making decisions, even in the context of sex.

There are now also new prevention methods such as contraceptives and condoms to stop pregnancies as well as sexually transmitted diseases from spreading.

Dr Yee says FWB is another form of relationship where both sides are not committed to one another.
'It is whatever that works for both parties,' he says.

Complications, can however, develop, he warns. This is especially true when one of the parties changes the rules or doesn't stick to the arrangement.

'It could be someone falls in love, or one of them does not want to do it anymore. It could also be that they have lost interest or found someone else more attractive.'

He says an FWB could also stop if either party 'catches a disease'.

Dr Yee stresses that as in any relationship, to maintain an FWB relationship, it is important to stick to the arrangement or have the ground rules such as 'not kissing and telling' and confining it to casual sex.

Communication is also key to having an FWB as things could evolve over a period of time.

'It could be two people who are sexually attracted to each other but this eventually dies off and there is commitment and love,' he stresses.

Whether it is safer to have an FWB compared to a one-night stand, Dr Yee reminds that while ideally it would be best to abstain from sex or being faithful to one partner, practising safe sex is important in any sexual relation.

He says the question of whether sex is better in such a relationship also depends on the parties involved.

'It could be better because there is no obligation, complication or expectation,' he says.

'It could also be more exciting because they are being more naughty or because they could be doing it with two or more people.'

He has had people who are in FWB relationships coming to him for advice.

'As a healthcare professional, my job is not to judge. It is to help people maintain a healthy lifestyle,' he says.

However, he adds since we are a society of values, it is recommended that people stick to these values as there are parties that will judge us based on our behaviour.

Fuddies... haha... f-buddies?

I think lots of guys want this... haha....

Look at the discussion in HWZ. All sounds so excited !

http://forums.hardwarezone.com.sg/showthread.php?t=2545191

HWZ can be quite messed up. It started out well but is now becoming a little weird. From what I've been told, it's on its way to the other darker forum.

Technospaz wrote:

HWZ can be quite messed up. It started out well but is now becoming a little weird. From what I've been told, it's on its way to the other darker forum.

Very true. I was a frequent HWZ visitor for any tech related discussion, but I rarely visit it nowadays.

Getting very dark, not suitable for work, full of racist and anti religion ppl.

I do not agree with this. Having such relationships will in the end of the day, destroy the essense or sanctity of marriage, which will in the end of the day destroy family living. Its a bit too long to explain how marriage has got to do with a healthy family life. But i am sure you have heard of phrases like ,'A healthy family stems from a healthy marriage' or ' Parents are childrens first role models'

I think in this modern day, when people talk about relationships, people have to relate it to sex. I think relating a man-woman relationship is not just about sex. Its about knowing the person, as a person....his or her likes, dislikes....its about relating and understanding.....Its not about knowing each others anatomies. Therefore, if you ask me if FWB is correct, i wud say, its up to the individual. But personally, i do not agree with it. It tend to get rather messy, and in the end of the day someone is bound to get hurt.

Sex is something beautiful cos a man and woman do it as they love one another and thru that, hopefully they can built a loving family unit. its definately not something that has to be taken so cheaply.

MT is my FWB.

Nietsu u r my idol....

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

MT is my FWB.

FWAH no wonder yesterday he was walking funny.....

Swerve wrote:

mUAr_cHEe wrote:

MT is my FWB.

FWAH no wonder yesterday he was walking funny.....

actually everyday MT walks funny......

nientsu wrote:

I do not agree with this. Having such relationships will in the end of the day, destroy the essense or sanctity of marriage, which will in the end of the day destroy family living. Its a bit too long to explain how marriage has got to do with a healthy family life. But i am sure you have heard of phrases like ,'A healthy family stems from a healthy marriage' or ' Parents are childrens first role models'

I think in this modern day, when people talk about relationships, people have to relate it to sex. I think relating a man-woman relationship is not just about sex. Its about knowing the person, as a person....his or her likes, dislikes....its about relating and understanding.....Its not about knowing each others anatomies. Therefore, if you ask me if FWB is correct, i wud say, its up to the individual. But personally, i do not agree with it. It tend to get rather messy, and in the end of the day someone is bound to get hurt.

Sex is something beautiful cos a man and woman do it as they love one another and thru that, hopefully they can built a loving family unit. its definately not something that has to be taken so cheaply.

I totally agree, Mal. Unfortunately, I fear that many youngsters don't subscribe to the same. In fact, sex is taken rather lightly these days. Many don't realize the risks and worry until much later and, unfortunately, regret will be of little use then.

lol.. virgins in this day and age are rare and endangered specimens. and it doesn't help when guys get made fun of for sticking to their beliefs.

It reminds me of the time when Bohsia was a happening stage.... and now fuddies. Come on folks... Lets bring back swingers and flower power...

But watch out for STD and VDs. Coincidentally recently there was an article in ST about Teen with highest cases of STDs...